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RE: Being fired or resigning - 20/12/2012 6:09:21 PM

Goodfella

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Thanks everyone!!!

I've had my shifts changed again and am now working roughly 36 hours over the course of three days but with the finishing line in sight I'm actually not that bothered! I've remained professional and courteous and ran an entire Christmas party service on my own today without any fuss leaving him with very little to say.

Roll on midnight on Saturday!

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 20/12/2012 8:26:41 PM

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I agree with what Sharkboy said - win-win!

Keep going, the end is in sight! You've coped admirably with a crappy situation for aaages, well done. And well done to putting an end to it.

Last day for me tomorrow! Well, last half day since we only work till 12 on Fridays, although I will probably leave late. I cannot wait.

Still no job to go to after new year though...

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 20/12/2012 11:53:30 PM

Goodfella

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JV

I agree with what Sharkboy said - win-win!

Keep going, the end is in sight! You've coped admirably with a crappy situation for aaages, well done. And well done to putting an end to it.

Last day for me tomorrow! Well, last half day since we only work till 12 on Fridays, although I will probably leave late. I cannot wait.

Still no job to go to after new year though...

Looks like me and you are joining the unemployed thread!!

I've finished my lovely 12-hour shift and yes, the end is very much in sight, in just over 48 hours I will be done!

Several colleagues and regulars hugged me tonight as I won't be seeing them again. I don't think he quite liked that.

I also did quite a few shots tonight with another local landlord who was on a night out. He definitely did like that!

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Post #: 33

RE: Being fired or resigning - 30/12/2012 2:37:46 PM

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I finished work on 21st and even last night I was still dreaming about it.

Anyway I got rejections from the 3 jobs I interviewed for, never mind.

However I have a temp-to-perm job starting 2nd January as an administrator. It pays �7k a year less than my old job but to be honest I think it will give me some breathing space and time to get my confidence back. If it goes permanent the pay will go up a couple of grand.

Either way it's a job, I will be much more skint but at least I can pay the bills, my public transport costs are unchanged, and my commute will be a lot better. No more getting up at 5:30am! Also, I used to go swimming after work and it turns out there's a pool only 10mins walk from my new workplace.

I am actually looking forward to the whole thing but still have this underlying fear I will be terrible at it or will hate it - which is still a possibility I suppose! But if I don't like it I can temp elsewhere and I can still keep looking while I'm there, or I might decide I like it and want to stay.

I'm just so relieved to be out of my old place. Can you believe, even on my last day I was there 2.5hrs later than my finish time and everyone else left, including my boss!

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 30/12/2012 6:18:53 PM

Sway

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JV

I finished work on 21st and even last night I was still dreaming about it.

My manager at my previous place of work has messed me up so badly that even a year + 3 months after leaving that place my heart rate shoots through the roof when I see somebody that looks like her. Went for a walk with my dad a couple of days ago and a couple were walking in our direction - the woman looked the spitting image of my old boss, and I swear I almost had a heart attack.

I've only been into my old place of work once since leaving and even then that was only because my pal had text promising me she wasn't there.

One of my current work buddies is somebody I met at my old place of work - I basically helped get him the job at my current place. Anyway we both lament the fact that despite us both being free of working for her, we can't shake off the effect she's had on us. I mean, she is still topic of conversation a year after I left that place, despite not seeing her since. I loathe that I let myself be affected by one person so badly, but she just had such a huge impact on what little confidence I already had.

Anyyyyways, my point here is, that I can empathise with you and I hope you find something soon that you'll enjoy a lot more. I definitely think you've made the right decision here - I left that last place of work without having a new job lined up which was a very risky move but it paid off and I got a new job within 2 weeks. Best wishes, hope it all goes well for you.

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 15/2/2013 9:02:45 PM

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Okay, it's been about 7 or 8 weeks since Ieft my last job and I will say right now it was 100% the right decision to leave.

Since leaving, I had about 10 days of doing nothin' on account of it being Christmas, then I started at a long-term temp job which pays on average �7k a year less than my old one. Quite frankly, I absolutely love it. I get on with everyone, I enjoy my work, my commute is awesome and as there is a swimming pool just 10 minutes' walk away, I have been going there every morning before work.

The difference in me is incredible. I come home happy, I stay up later at night as I get up an hour later in the mornings, and at work I am not afraid to speak up and ask questions and challenge decisions. I have a spring in my step.

I am beginning to realise my old job was having a bigger impact on my wellbeing than I realised. For example, when I brush my teeth at night I often gag when the toothbrush got near the back but in the last few months sometimes it was making me actually vomit. Similarly, I used to have breakfast then 15 minutes later I would be heaving. As I didn't feel sick about going to work, I just figured I was getting older and the body changes but both of these things magically stopped about a week after quitting my job. And - now this one will sound stupid - we used to have pizza every Monday night, just a supermarket pizza but as pizza is my favourite food it was always a treat. Anyway, no matter what I found it HAD to be pizza on Monday nights, it just couldn't be a Tuesday for example. Nowadays I am happy to have it whenever (this week it was last night) and I realise now that I used it as something to look forward to, as a way of getting through Mondays. Kind of a "get through today and you can have pizza", even though that thought never crossed my mind at the time.

I met with a lady at an agency this week - I had an interview on Thursday, after which I went to see this lady who had arranged an interview for me back in December. This lady has only met me twice and she said she couldn't get over the difference in me. She said I'd had a serious edge to me, a shadow almost, but now I was bubbly and outgoing. So it is very noticeable.

So it is all working out for me. I honestly believe I would have had a mental breakdown if I had carried on there and I think I am a little scarred from the experience, and always will be. If you are in this situation, I would strongly recommend you doing whatever possible to get out of it because I cannot stress how big a difference to your wellbeing it will make.

Hugs.

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 15/2/2013 10:16:06 PM

Sway

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Really pleased to hear that JV.

I don't think some people can appreciate how completely life-changing it can be to move from a job where it negatively affects every single aspect of your life to somewhere you feel happier. The difference can be unbelieveable.

I can completely empathise with you - I felt like an entirely new person once I started at my current job because I'd been so miserable at my last place.

So well done for taking the bold decision to quit - something that's not always as easy as people think - and getting something new.

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 16/2/2013 3:58:21 PM

sanchia

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Good to hear things have picked up. I completely agree. A job with a bad environment is soul destroying and when I left one like that it was a weight off my shoulders like I could not believe.

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 19/2/2013 9:36:10 AM

Invader_Ace

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quote:

ORIGINAL: JV

And - now this one will sound stupid - we used to have pizza every Monday night, just a supermarket pizza but as pizza is my favourite food it was always a treat. Anyway, no matter what I found it HAD to be pizza on Monday nights, it just couldn't be a Tuesday for example. Nowadays I am happy to have it whenever (this week it was last night) and I realise now that I used it as something to look forward to, as a way of getting through Mondays. Kind of a "get through today and you can have pizza", even though that thought never crossed my mind at the time.

Holy. Shit.

Pizza Monday.

I thought it was just me. I also never realised why until now. My Pizza Monday has also been gone for a while.

JV you are a sage.

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 26/2/2013 9:29:54 PM

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So it's not just me, Invader Ace!

Another big indicator that something was wrong was that I started to buy lottery tickets with more frequency. I usually buy lottery tickets once or twice a year (if that) and then found towards the back end of last year I was buying them every couple of weeks or so. It was when I thought, seriously, "maybe I should buy 10, then I stand a greater chance of winning something significant" that I realised what was going on. I never actually did buy 10 but the thought process was quite clear: win the lottery and never have to go back to that workplace.

I have been keeping up with a couple of old colleagues from that place and firstly one of them (the temp) told me she made a complaint to HR about one of the managers (not my old boss) and another - the one remaining permanent staff member who knows anything about the job, apart from my replacement (who has been there 2 months) - is pregnant again and so will be taking time off soon.I am normally the sort of person who has the decency to wish others well, even when I have my differences with them, but I must admit to feeling a perverse sense of satisfaction at the despair my boss must be feeling about his team basically falling apart.

Anyway, just reading back through this thread, I am wondering how Hood Man is getting on with his job??

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 27/2/2013 3:14:18 PM

Hood_Man

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If I'd read that half an hour ago my answer would have been very different

Its going alright, I almost enjoy it sometimes. Then I find myself in a situation where I have absolutely no idea what I'm doing and my world falls from under me.

I can't escape the idea that this is only temporary though, I can't see myself working here in 5-10 years, but that might just be commitment issues on my part.

Thrilled to hear you're feeling better though

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 2/3/2013 12:51:28 AM

The2ndRing

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My life in my Job equals the following:

1. Fuck fuck something has fucked up it's a huge problem I've got to sort this out
2. Excellent yes, I've sorted it, the team are engaged, awesome yes this is wicked
3. Oh right, someone isn't happy, they've told everyone but me the manager, shit, why haven't they come to me, what's the problem
4. Yeah sorted that, woo yeah let's move forward, awesome, woo, light at the end of the tunnel
5. BOOM See steps one to four and repeat ad nauseam

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 13/3/2013 9:57:27 AM

lbiu

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WOW This thread pretty much details my life right now.

Well I got a degree (which is basically pointless these days unless its a trade degree/qualification) and have never been able to use it. I work as a assistant in a pharmacy and I can't stress how ridiculously over bearing it is. I stand up for the whole day with only a 40 minute lunch break where I get to actually sit. Its tedious and pretty much involves me counting pills and sticking direction and warning labels on medicine boxes. Alot of it is taking phone call messages and dealing with external staff and patients. I have never been a customer service person and get very nervous and swallow my words. I am so inept at most of the job and find myself not even caring and just living inside my head for the whole day. I have gone into a deep depression...it has effected the rest of my life as I hardly go out and spend most of my time trying to find a way out but nothing comes back. I can't complain that anyone is cruel, arrogance is definitely there but mostly everyone is nice but the job is just not for me. The thought of this being a long term career almost drives me to tears....I just hate it. Now I am looking for a way out but into something I enjoy. I have always liked engineering and wanted to explore that but that means going back to education which I financially cant afford and I dont want to go back and gain another qualification that I never get to use like my first degree.

Life at the moment sucks and right now my heart is racing because I know I have to go into work in about a hour for a late duty shift which ends at 8pm.
I know I should leave as it really is killing me inside but there is not much out there and I dont want to just leave and fall into another job I might hate.

:(

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 14/3/2013 9:30:58 PM

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Wow, Ibiu, sounds like you need a change of direction, and quickly! I think the best way to get into engineering without doing a professional qualification is probably some kind of on-the-job work experience or apprenticeship. Maybe you could approach some local firms about unpaid work experience. Alternatively, if you do a degree, the careers office of your old uni will ALWAYS give you careers advice - I used mine once about 5 years after graduating - so perhaps you could ask them for help?

Anyway, putting a happy end to my sorry tale, I have just been offered a permanent job at the place I have been temping at. A job I love AND a nice pay increase - my old horrible job paid �19k, I've been temping at �12.5k for 11 weeks, and I am about to go up to �17k, so it's not that far off my old salary and it means I can do more than just scrape by. I am absolutely delighted. It doesn't use my languages but to be honest I am happy whether I use them for work or not. Happy happy happy JV!

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 15/3/2013 11:35:11 AM

shool

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Congrats JV. Well done!

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 17/3/2013 8:11:45 AM

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Thanks Shool.

Not that I am a particular fan of using myself as an example but I think it goes to show you sometimes have to take drastic measures,and although the results aren't always immediate, there will be results eventually. I would not recommend it for everyone but it has worked for me and was worth doing.

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RE: Being fired or resigning - 22/3/2013 8:32:38 PM

Hood_Man

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Well... I was feeling optimistic, but having seen the scores for this month's probation monitoring, I'm beginning to feel like I'm only months away from having to head back home to costa del west wales...

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