elab49
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ORIGINAL: matty_b Well, it was my cousin and her husband and they've just acted like complete twats over the last year and I just can't be bothered with either of them anymore. She's a year younger than me, and we always hung out together both when we were growing up and up until a year or so ago; essentially, she's always felt more like a younger sister than a cousin. She was also best friends with my ex-wife as they went to school together and in fact it was her that introduced us to each other. However, the guy she married is a complete cunt and control freak - but he's the type that keeps it behind closed doors, so anyone who meets him for the first time thinks he's a sound guy. He's not, and I'm going to stress this again, he's a cunt. And for whatever reason he took against my ex-wife, and pretty much made it impossible for her and my cousin to hang out together and still be friends. He'd check her email, phone, twitter account just to see what kind of messages were going between them. He even, unbeknownst to her for quite a while, installed an app on her phone that gives the location of where you are when you send someone a message - so if they were on a night out together and she would text him to say "I'm in xxxx bar right now" (because he was the type who would need constant updates through the night as to her whereabouts), then this app would tell him in the message the postcode she was texting from, so he knew if she was telling the truth or not. Anyway, eventually he pretty much wore her down and broke her will, so she cut my ex and me out of her life. This is bad enough, but considering the year we've had it just really fucks me off that she's done that and not been there for either us. I've always been at pains to point out that my marriage split was amicable, so anything that pisses her off or upsets her has a good chance of doing the same to me. And considering that in the last 12 months my ex has had our son diagnosed with autism, had our marriage break up and then her brother just drop dead, you would think her best friend would be there for her throughout. But she wasn't. One "Sorry to hear that. Hope you're OK." text message about the marriage break up, she did send flowers when her brother died but that was it apart from one other text message and a couple of very general replies to the occasional Facebook post about funeral arrangements and the like, and that's it. She's never rang her, sent her a long personal message or even popped round to see her. And she lives five minutes up the road. I mean, there is a mate's wife who my ex couldn't stand (the feeling was pretty much mutual), and yet she's shown more genuine concern for her than her supposed best friend has. And as for me, her actual family? Not one message in any way, shape or form. Oh, apart from one just before Christmas asking if I wanted to buy a gig ticket off her. And she's pregnant, apparently. I say 'apparently' because that's something else she hasn't bothered to tell me about herself. And as much as it's the fault of the twat she married, I'm just as angry at her because she doesn't have the backbone to stand up to him, even when two people she supposedly deeply cares about have pretty much gone through 12 months of hell. Um, that turned into a bit of a rant, didn't it? Sorry if you were expecting something a bit more jovial. Anyway, a pair of twats. Next time they beep me, they're getting the middle finger. Is she entirely willing in this? It sounds a bit worryingly like domestic abuse. (Sorry, I realise this may not be the case, but even your post doesn't make her sound the active villain in this).
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